{"id":9937,"date":"2026-01-03T16:44:46","date_gmt":"2026-01-03T16:44:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/storieshub.xyz\/?p=9937"},"modified":"2026-01-03T16:44:46","modified_gmt":"2026-01-03T16:44:46","slug":"my-ex-husband-married-my-best-friend-she-tells-everyone-weve-given-sister-wives-a-whole-new-meaning-wife-and-ex-wife-become-best-friends-after","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/storieshub.xyz\/?p=9937","title":{"rendered":"\u2018My ex-husband married my best friend,\u2019 she tells everyone. We\u2019ve given \u2018Sister Wives\u2019 a whole new meaning.\u2019: Wife and ex-wife become best friends after years of fighting, successfully co-parent blended family"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cAt the beginning of Tony and I\u2019s relationship, his ex-wife Amanda was in no way a fan of mine. I was his first girlfriend after their divorce and I\u2019m sure she felt she needed to protect her children because she had no clue who I was.<\/p>\n

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Lucas began playing soccer so we all had to be around one another during those times. They were very awkward because there was tension. Tony and my relationship continued growing and getting serious and so I felt that Amanda and I should meet at lunch and try to hash things out so we could all get along for the kids\u2019 sake and move forward with our lives, drama free. So I texted her one day and she surprisingly agreed.<\/p>\n

I remember feeling so nervous before walking in because I had no clue what I was going to say to her \u2013 all I knew was we were going to be in one another\u2019s lives for forever, and we might as well try to make the best of it. We went to lunch and I told her, \u2018I am not trying to take your place. You are the kids\u2019 mother and I in no way want to replace you.\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018I really needed to hear that,\u2019 she told me.<\/p>\n

Truthfully, the rest is history! We did not become \u2018friends\u2019 after that, but we were \u2018friendly\u2019 with one another, able to say hello at games and such.<\/p>\n

Our relationship did not happen overnight after that. There were times I wanted to knock her upside her head and vise versa. We both are very open about this because we know that people look at our lives and our relationship now and think, \u2018Why can\u2019t we have what y\u2019all have?\u2019 It\u2019s so important for us to explain to people that it hasn\u2019t always been this way! We are almost SEVEN years in the making. I would say our actual friendship starting developing about 2-3 years ago, even two summers ago we went months without speaking and getting along so that goes to show you it still can be up and down for us as well.<\/p>\n

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Since we do spend so much time together, we have been able to learn how the other one works and how we\u2019re each wired. It\u2019s been a lot of trial and error. Our communication has been the biggest key because if we can\u2019t talk and discuss huge things going on in our kids\u2019 lives, how will we ever agree on anything? We don\u2019t want to be the family where one parent buys the kid a phone without making sure the other is on board. That\u2019s a huge purchase and every parent should be on board with something like that. For us, we know that each of us want to be involved with big decisions so from the beginning we make it a point to talk about the hard stuff. For example, if the kids are watching something at our house she doesn\u2019t think they should be watching, we want her to feel comfortable enough coming to us and say, \u2018Hey, I don\u2019t think they should be watching this, here\u2019s why\u2026\u2019 and vice versa. Communication is key!<\/p>\n

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I think the hardest hurdle for us was trust. How can we learn to trust this person who my husband went through a nasty divorce with? If you\u2019ve ever been divorced, you know it brings the worst out in people, especially when your babies are involved. And for Amanda too, I know that Tony and I both have said nasty hurtful things and I\u2019m sure she felt zero trust on her end as well. So how do we go from this place of \u2018below zero,\u2019 that\u2019s how I felt\u2026 we were starting below zero because there was so much messy back history. For some, I know they feel they will never be able to trust again. But for Tony and I, we had to create a new kind of trust. A new type of relationship. Because no matter what, this person is in our lives, whether we want them there or not. We see her multiple times a week for kid stuff. We knew it would be better for the kids and better for us if we could all at least get along and be intentional about our relationship. We weren\u2019t being fake, we were genuinely trying to develop and create a \u2018new normal\u2019 essentially, and I don\u2019t think any of us realized what that looked like yet. We just knew it had to be positive for the kids.<\/p>\n

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The more time you spend with someone you learn more about them, right? We\u2019d be sitting at our son\u2019s practice and would just talk\u2026 you know, girl talk\u2026 and I began realizing, holy crap, I actually think I like this person. Over the years we just became closer and closer and truthfully, I didn\u2019t think we could become any closer than we were \u2013 and then Amanda went through one of the toughest heartbreaks that I had ever seen someone go through. She called Tony and I one day to let us know she broke up with her ex. My immediate response was, \u2018Take me to her house.\u2019 I could hear in her voice how badly it had knocked the breath out of her and I needed to lay eyes on her and make sure she was okay. Tony took me there and we sat on her couch and I held her while she bawled her eyes out because the man of her dreams turned out not to be who she thought he was.<\/p>\n

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That summer was damaging for our family. That summer Tony and I literally helped Amanda \u2013 the mother of our children \u2013 yes, his ex-wife \u2013 pick up the pieces of herself. We walked through all the dark days with her and were there for her in ways I never dreamt I\u2019d be there for my husband\u2019s ex-wife. People look at us and tell us how weird it looks how close we are, but no one knows the trenches we have walked through together as a family. Just like a normal friendship goes through highs and lows, that\u2019s what we do. We go through highs together and we go through lows together.<\/p>\n

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I have had family members, friends, so many strangers tell me how weird and unheard of our family looks on the outside. But truthfully, I don\u2019t care. All that matters to me is my kids are happy and healthy. And the three of their parents are happy and healthy and are able to parent them in a much healthier way so they can have a positive and better outlook. Their mother is a piece of them which makes her a piece of our family. No, our family is not your average, traditional family but it\u2019s ours, and we are proud of it. We say we have given \u2018Sister Wives\u2019 a whole new meaning.<\/p>\n

\u2018My ex-husband married my best friend,\u2019 Amanda tells everyone.<\/p>\n

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Of course people have millions of questions because it does look like we have always been friends with how close we are now. But God does work in very mysterious ways. You know, 2 years ago I had two very close friendships end and it was heartbreaking to me. I would pray for God to send me a new friend\u2026 all I wanted was that sisterhood and close bond you get from a close girlfriend. It wasn\u2019t shortly after that we got even closer. What I needed was right before me the whole time.\u201d<\/p>\n

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