{"id":6810,"date":"2025-12-07T16:32:22","date_gmt":"2025-12-07T16:32:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/storieshub.xyz\/?p=6810"},"modified":"2025-12-07T16:32:22","modified_gmt":"2025-12-07T16:32:22","slug":"ive-never-had-real-parents-before-ive-waited-my-entire-life-to-be-treated-the-way-yall-treat-me-couple-adopts-18-year-old-who-was-abandoned-by","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/storieshub.xyz\/?p=6810","title":{"rendered":"\u2018I\u2019ve never had real parents before. I\u2019ve waited my entire life to be treated the way y\u2019all treat me.\u2019: Couple adopts 18-year-old who was \u2018abandoned by his birth mother with no name\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cFrom before the time I met my husband, I knew I was not the kind of person that would bear children. I knew it in my soul like I knew how to breathe. The weight of that didn\u2019t hit me until a man showed up that wanted me for a wife. Being a pastor\u2019s daughter with a Christian background meant marrying a nice man and bearing enough children to fill out the pew on Sunday morning, but God\u2019s plan for me was different. If there is one thing I\u2019ve learned, it is that most people don\u2019t like different. My husband still chose me and chose to bear the labels placed on him as the husband of a \u2018different\u2019 woman. He never looked back on a \u2018normal\u2019 life. Shortly after our marriage, we began to volunteer at our church as youth pastors. Suddenly, our pew on Sunday morning was full of children, and it felt right.<\/p>\n

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We worked with students in a low-income area, most of which had sub-par parental figures. They were hurting and lost. After 3 years of marriage, we decided that Sundays and Wednesdays weren\u2019t enough. We had to be all in. Slowly we started introducing the idea of fostering and adopting. It didn\u2019t go well. We were met by many people who wanted to offer their advice on how we should start a family at the tender ages of 24 and 26.<\/p>\n

\u2018You need to have your \u2018own\u2019 children first.\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018Your husband needs to carry on his legacy.\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018I would never adopt a child I didn\u2019t raise, they have so much baggage.\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018God will bless you with a child of your own. (insert information on infertility)\u2019<\/p>\n

So, like any reasonable couple in the face of that advice, we called and scheduled our classes with CPS and got a vasectomy. We chose to end our fertility to reduce the stigma that our children would be plan B or a result of not receiving our blessing from God. After we announced that we would only be taking children above the age of 13, the comments became more hateful and misguided.<\/p>\n

\u2018Are you sure you don\u2019t want younger kids? Teens will kill you in your sleep.\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018You won\u2019t even give your husband children; how could you raise someone else\u2019s kids?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018You\u2019re a waste of a good uterus.\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018The best you will ever get is that a kid sees you as a mentor and then leaves the second he turns 18.\u2019<\/p>\n

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This lasted for the entire 9 months it took to complete the licensing process. So many nights I went and sat in the rooms that would hold my children and I sobbed and prayed for their precious lives. I prayed they could somehow feel the love I had for them, even before we met. I would see kids and wonder if they were mine. Finally, the day came for our license to be delivered. When our new case worker showed up, she got out of the car and said, \u2018So you are the people that want teenagers\u2026 are you crazy?\u2019<\/p>\n

I said, \u2018Something like that.\u2019<\/p>\n

She came in and we discussed several children that were available for adoption. As she got ready to leave, she asked if we were open to fostering. I told her we wanted to be forever family, but we were open to it should an emergency take place.<\/p>\n

She said, \u2018Well, I got a phone call in your driveway for a 16-year-old male who needs a home by tonight.\u2019<\/p>\n

I told her, \u2018Bring him home.\u2019<\/p>\n

My husband looked at me like I was crazy and asked if we needed to pray about it.<\/p>\n

I told him, \u2018I don\u2019t need to pray again about the prayer God has already answered, but you are welcome to.\u2019<\/p>\n

His prayer went like this, \u2018Lord?\u2019 Then he looked up and said, \u2018She\u2019s right, bring him.\u2019<\/p>\n

After they left, I shut the door, put my back up against it, and stared at my husband in terror. \u2018What have we done? We aren\u2019t ready for this.\u2019<\/p>\n

I burst into tears and walked into my son\u2019s room, finally having a name to go with the child I had prayed for. I prayed over his room and his life with us, and the tears stopped. Peace filled my heart and joy began.<\/p>\n

Three hours later, I met my son. He came through our front door with his little fishing pole. It wasn\u2019t in a hospital, not with hugs and kisses, but with a soft smile and a handshake. Nothing could have ever prepared me for the pain of a desperate child showing up on my doorstep. In that second I knew he was mine, and the love I had for him was completely indescribable. He was far too small to be nearly 17 and he came with two bags of clothes that were ripped, stained, or too small. I wept as I emptied his bags into my washing machine.<\/p>\n

My son was abandoned by his birth mother at the hospital with no name, height, weight, or time on his birth certificate. There he sat for a week until family could be found to take him. He was raised by his grandmother until he was 11, and she fell ill. Over the next 5 years he was passed around and subjected to unspeakable abuse until he reached the end of the list of people who could take care of him. He called CPS and told them he was homeless and needed a place to go. His plan was to emancipate, work at Walmart, and make enough money to smoke pot and eat Ramen noodles. He had been rejected by everyone he had ever met and didn\u2019t believe we would be any different.<\/p>\n

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We started to notice a change when he came home and threw himself on his bed in a puddle of tears. I sat by him and pat his back. He looked at me and said, \u2018I have waited my entire life to be treated the way y\u2019all treat me. I have never had real parents before.\u2019<\/p>\n

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We fought against all odds to become family. We took custody of him less than three months after he moved in to allow CPS to step out and offer him more stability, but that meant he couldn\u2019t be adopted. So many times he would beg for us to keep him, and so many times he tried to push us away to protect his heart. One day we got home and he burst into tears and asked me to make a promise he was sure was selfish. He said, \u2018Mom, can I stay even after I\u2019m 18, and will you promise to tuck me in even if it\u2019s awkward?\u2019 That was the easiest promise I could ever make to my son. He would always be ours.<\/p>\n

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While custody was fine, we all longed for more permanency. We asked to adopt him after his 18th birthday and share our last name. On January 10th, 2019, after nearly two years of waiting, he officially became ours. He took our name, and for the first time, has a mom and a dad of his very own.<\/p>\n

As much as I hated the wait, I love that we were able to adopt him as an \u2018adult.\u2019<\/p>\n

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Parenthood came to us in a really unconventional way, but it has been more than I could have ever hoped for. In two years Randall has come so far and continues to grow every day. The boy whose dream was to smoke pot and get by on his own is now a new person. He will tell you, \u2018I never dreamed of things like going to college or having a family, but now I have support and I am living a life I never even thought I could have.\u2019<\/p>\n

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He is currently finishing up his junior year of high school and taking dual credit college classes. He is also an avid baseball player hoping to get picked up to play college baseball. His dream is to become a baseball player, coach, or inland fisheries scientist.<\/p>\n

We are so thankful for the people we have met along this journey and the influence they have had on our lives. We maintain relationships with several members of Randall\u2019s birth family that we consider family ourselves.<\/p>\n

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We continue to foster and adopt teenagers, and hope to finalize two more adoptions before the year is over. We live by the motto of, \u2018It\u2019s not about our family needing more kids, it\u2019s about more kids needing our family.\u2019 So when people ask how many kids we plan to have, the answer is, \u2018We never planned for any.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

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