{"id":5038,"date":"2025-11-20T15:15:01","date_gmt":"2025-11-20T15:15:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/storieshub.xyz\/?p=5038"},"modified":"2025-11-20T15:15:01","modified_gmt":"2025-11-20T15:15:01","slug":"hell-never-be-a-dead-beat-dad-who-got-remarried-and-started-a-new-life-and-i-refuse-to-be-the-evil-stepmom-bonus-mom-successfully-co-parents-with-husbands-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/storieshub.xyz\/?p=5038","title":{"rendered":"\u2018He\u2019ll never be a dead-beat dad who got remarried and started a new life. And I refuse to be the evil stepmom.\u2019: Bonus mom successfully co-parents with husband\u2019s ex, \u2018We all make the effort\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cHaving a blended family isn\u2019t easy. And I\u2019m what you would call a bonus mom. Not a stepmom. But a bonus mom.<\/p>\n

When I first met my husband Jason, he told me he was a single father to 2 handsome boys. You could see how proud he was of them and how much he loved them. When we started dating it took a month before he ever introduced me to them, just to make sure we were more than a one-and-done date. As things progressed, I fell in love with him and his boys. And we eventually got married.<\/p>\n

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His boys were the ring bearers and best men at our wedding. Before I came into the picture, their mother got remarried and moved with them 4 hours away to another state. But, they made coparenting work. And together, us 4 parents became friends. Now, we could not be more opposite if you tried. From the way we dress, act, music we listen to, parenting styles, and hobbies that we do with our kids. But, we show up. We do it for them. We all 4 stand on the sidelines cheering at football games.<\/p>\n

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We take pictures and embarrass the boys at school graduations or award ceremonies. And we even get together for special occasions that would warrant your parents being there. Even if they have 4 of them.<\/p>\n

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If you have followed along on my Instagram @heathercrock for a while, you will see that we try to make every effort to see our kids. We travel to Idaho and stay in hotels for the weekend every two weeks just so we can watch our oldest play football during the season. Now remember, we live in two different states, and after we adopted two babies only 4 months apart last year, we have a lot going on.<\/p>\n

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Every other Friday I leave from work and drive to meet their mom or stepdad 100 miles away. Sometimes with traffic or inclement weather, it can take more than 5-6 hours round trip. My husband Jason then makes the same trek on Sunday less than 48 hours later. This last week we got a phone call from their mom asking us, \u2018Do you want to come stay with the boys while we go out of town, so they don\u2019t miss school?\u2019 And of course we said yes (although, I had patients I couldn\u2019t reschedule so I stayed home with the babes).<\/p>\n

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My husband took off work for two days so he could make them lunches, help with homework, and our 8-year-old even lost a tooth. That night he handcrafted a very specific note for the Tooth Fairy requesting a self-portrait because he didn\u2019t know what he\/she looked like? The next morning when he woke up and saw the masterpiece he had drawn, the youngest replied, \u2018I wasn\u2019t really expecting Mr. Tooth Fairy to look like that \ud83e\udd23\u2019.<\/p>\n

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The love he has for his children is one of the things that attracted me to him the most. As I mentioned before, making a blended family successful takes a lot of effort. And a million miles spent in the car. But they are absolutely worth it. We all make the effort. We all show up. We are all present for our children. Jason will never be a dead-beat dad who got remarried and started a new life. And I refuse to be the evil stepmom who won\u2019t make time for ALL of her kids. So, I got the title of bonus mom. And I\u2019ll take it.<\/p>\n

Every. Single. Day.\u201d<\/p>\n

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