He always say that nice guys finish last, but what about fake nice guys? You know the type. They\u2019re the ones who always SAY that they\u2019re nice \u2014 but act the opposite.<\/p>\n
They\u2019re the ones who think doing one nice thing lets them off the hook for being an assh*le. They get offended when you imply that they\u2019re anything but nice \u2014 because that means you\u2019re beginning to figure them out.<\/p>\n
Yeah, those guys. Those f*cking FAKE NICE GUYS. They\u2019re the guys I always date.<\/p>\n
Time after time, I fall for the same type. They\u2019re the noncommittal guys who tell you that you\u2019re \u201cdifferent,\u201d though in reality you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n
They\u2019re seemingly shy but overly confident. They\u2019ve got style and swagger, but they\u2019re always a little insecure. They seem to have friends, but they\u2019re often alone. He seems nice, but he\u2019s not. He\u2019s fake nice.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s how to tell if the guy you\u2019re dating is a fake nice guy.<\/p>\n
1. He gets pissed when you imply he\u2019s not nice.
\nYou\u2019re picking up on clues that indicate he\u2019s not this sweet guy you once thought he was. You\u2019ll flirtily throw in a little \u201cWow, you\u2019re mean\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re being a d*ck,\u201d but he takes it too seriously. He doesn\u2019t get the joke and responds with \u201cHow am I being mean?\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m not a dick!\u201d<\/p>\n
(This is gaslighting: He tears you down gradually \u2014 insidiously \u2014 and denies it when you point it out.)<\/p>\n
All he hears is something he\u2019s heard before. You\u2019re evoking a defensive response in him for a reason. He is mean, and he is a dick. And this isn\u2019t something that\u2019s going to change.<\/p>\n
2. He\u2019ll insult you in a \u2018nice\u2019 way.
\nAh, the backhanded compliment. He sure has something to say about the places you like to go and the outfits you wear, but he won\u2019t shy away from joining you at those places and taking off those clothes.<\/p>\n
\u201cI love it when you wear black,\u201d he says when you\u2019re wearing white.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re funny when you\u2019re angry,\u201d he tells you. But it\u2019s not funny. At all.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou really like to wear flats, don\u2019t you?\u201d he says (implying that you should wear heels).<\/p>\n
Compliments are meant to make you feel good about yourself \u2014 not second-guess yourself. This is NOT nice behavior.<\/p>\n
3. He might be nicer to the bartender than he is to you.
\nIt\u2019s hard to get this guy to have a good, deep conversation. But as soon as the bartender comes over, this guy is all kinds of chatty.<\/p>\n
Sure, outsiders find this friendly. But you\u2019ve been trying to pull conversation from this guy all night. The bartender sure loves him, but you\u2019re not quite sure if you do.<\/p>\n
4. He\u2019ll move the relationship forward in the beginning to get to the good stuff.
\nThis thing you have is just starting, and you\u2019re feeling good about it. You want to push it in the right direction, because you like this guy and want him to stick around.<\/p>\n
You see each other a lot in the first couple of weeks, and it\u2019s hot. He wants to have sex all the time, and you\u2019re into that, but you want a date here and there as well.<\/p>\n
It seems like he really likes you and wants to come around a lot \u2014 that is, only when he has a sure shot at sex. He\u2019ll meet up with you (and maybe even your friends) to go out, but he\u2019s not trying to take you to dinner.<\/p>\n
5. He doesn\u2019t call after you sleep together.
\nHe leaves your place in the morning (after some good morning sex), and you think you\u2019ll hear from him later that day. Why wouldn\u2019t you? It\u2019s only polite, and this isn\u2019t a one-night stand. But you don\u2019t hear from him the next day or for days after.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s keeping you where he wants you and thinks that\u2019s totally fine. He\u2019s busy; you\u2019re busy. But, no one is too busy to text the next day. A real nice guy would text.<\/p>\n
6. He gets upset when he doesn\u2019t get exactly what he wants.
\nWhen he\u2019s out and about, you\u2019re supposed to be too. When he\u2019s ready to hang, you\u2019re supposed to be ready to hang. When you\u2019re not willing to do what he wants to, it\u2019s your fault.<\/p>\n
Fake nice guys can always manipulate the situation. Nothing is ever their fault and blame is easily pushed off of them on to you. It\u2019s YOUR fault you didn\u2019t see him last night because YOU weren\u2019t on his level.<\/p>\n
7. He likes to talk but doesn\u2019t like to listen.
\nYou\u2019re talking and sharing things about you, then somehow it always ends back on him. You listen because you\u2019re nice, but you wonder how the conversation just shifted from being about your life to his without a real segue. The conversation is flowing, but it\u2019s totally imbalanced.<\/p>\n
But then he\u2019ll remember something you said once, and it makes you wonder how well he really was listening. Why wasn\u2019t he interested the first time I said it?<\/p>\n
8. He flirts with other girls when he thinks you\u2019re not paying attention.
\nThis behavior is partly why you went out with him in the first place. He\u2019s fun in a group. He\u2019s a flirt. But when you\u2019re in a relationship, you\u2019re not amused when he pays more attention to your friends and dismisses the fact that you\u2019re supposed to be there together.<\/p>\n
But when you go home, he\u2019ll do something unexpectedly gentle, like put your head lovingly in his lap. And this throws you off. You\u2019re still slightly annoyed for him because of how he was behaving earlier, but this gesture is supposed to get him off the hook. And it does.<\/p>\n
9. He always felt a little \u2018off\u2019 to you, and now you know why.
\nYou knew it. You knew this guy wasn\u2019t the \u2018nice guy\u2019 you wanted him to be. You saw the signs that he wasn\u2019t ready for a relationship or didn\u2019t want anything serious with you.<\/p>\n
You knew that his asshole status overrode the times he was being so sweet. You knew you were making excuses for a fake nice guy, and now you know better next time.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s so easy to blame yourself for falling for this kid. But you have to simply look out for the warning signs in the future. Ladies, take it from me: Steer clear of the fake nice guys. Let\u2019s make THEM finish last.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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