To say I’m observant on dates is a major understatement. I can’t help but analyze every one of my date’s actions and mannerisms: his drink choice, word choice, the way he keeps bouncing his right leg or touching his bottom lip. And if you treat date nights with the same Sherlock Holmes mentality that I do, you’re probably wondering what your partner’s body language during sex actually reveals about their feelings in that moment. Like, what does it mean when you find yourself kissing during sex? What if your partner kisses or caresses your feet? Your body language in bed together can truly speak volumes.<\/p>\n
Just last week, my friend told me that a guy shoved multiple fingers into her mouth while they were making out. Like, making a dinosaur claw and just sticking his hand in her mouth. Needless to say, I was perplexed.\u201cWhat does that even mean?\u201d she asked. \u201cIs it like, \u2018Mmm, yes, I’m so into this, I want your tongue on my hand?\u2019 Or, like, \u2018I need to get away from your mouth for a second, but here, make out with my pointer and middle fingers?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n
I had no answers, only more questions. Enter body language experts Tonya Reiman and Patti Wood. \u201cFingers in the mouth are a clear representation of several things,\u201d Reiman explains. \u201c[It] is often used as a fantasy tool \u2014 one in which the individual who puts their fingers in the mouth of their partner is experiencing an oral fantasy of their own. Secondarily, it is used as a \u2018taste test.\u2019 One person puts their fingers in their partner as a way to imagine the other potentially masturbating and tasting themselves in the process.\u201d Huh, who knew?<\/p>\n
As it turns out, lots of other typical maneuvers and mannerisms \u2014 and some not-so-typical physical cues \u2014 can indicate what your partner or hookup is really thinking. Here’s a look at what someone\u2019s body language in bed says about their feelings during sex, from feisty nips and nibbles to gentle neck kisses.<\/p>\n
01
\nThey Can\u2019t Stop Touching Your Face & Hair<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen someone touches or strokes your hair and\/or face during sex, it is typically a demonstration of affection,\u201d says Reiman. \u201cThis is primal; it shows that they want to connect with you on more than a mere physical level. Typically, the hair-stroker or the face-toucher has genuine feelings [for you] or is just a real romantic.\u201d<\/p>\n
Wood agrees. \u201cThere\u2019s research that talks about how we\u2019re attracted to full healthy heads of hair, because it\u2019s a signal that that person would make good babies if they had good genetic makeup,\u201d she says. \u201cSo if we\u2019re petting, stroking, tugging our fingers through, maybe slightly pulling on the hair, as we\u2019re doing that, part of us is going, \u2018Ooh, we\u2019d make good babies.\u2019 It\u2019s one of those signals.\u201d She also adds that someone who\u2019s super into you will likely focus on your face as much as possible \u2014 not just because they like looking at you, but because they want to catalog your response to their actions.<\/p>\n
If your partner takes the time to run their fingers through your hair or caress your cheek during sex, it may be an indicator they’ve got strong feelings and, at least subconsciously, they think you\u2019re the real deal. If they avoid your face altogether, chances are they\u2019re feeling much more distant.<\/p>\n
02
\nThey Use A Ton Of Tongue When They Kiss
\n\u201cThey\u2019re either new to the world of intimacy, or they\u2019re experiencing a sense of urgency,\u201d explains Reiman. \u201cThey\u2019re telling you they want to explore every part of you. Typically the body movements of this individual will match the tongue movements. For example, if they\u2019re fast with the tongue, their sexual encounter will mimic that action.\u201d<\/p>\n
Basically, if your partner’s using a whole lot of tongue, it can mean they want you and they want you now. That said, there’s a chance they don’t even realize how much tongue they’re using. So if you’re not loving all that slobbery action, feel free to give them a gentle heads up. \u201cThe tongue is an extremely strong muscle, and quite often the individual doesn\u2019t realize they\u2019re potentially overusing this muscle,\u201d Reiman elaborates.<\/p>\n
03
\nThey Grab You By The Waist
\n\u201cObviously, this is positional,\u201d says Reiman. \u201cOne of the main reasons to use this position is to either pull you in deeper \u2014 thrust-wise \u2014 or … admire and appreciate your measurements, which will typically bring someone to a sexually heightened mental state. This is potentially evolution at work.\u201d<\/p>\n
In other words, your partner is likely doing this because they want to get a better feel for your body, both physically and mentally (particularly if they are the penetrating partner in this scenario). They want to understand just how well your bodies fit together.<\/p>\n
04
\nThey Touch Your Forehead<\/p>\n
If you find yourself forehead-to-forehead with your partner, odds are you have some pretty intense feelings for each other. In Wood\u2019s words, this is a \u201cbeautifully symbolic\u201d gesture. \u201cYou want to be of like mind,\u201d she explains. \u201cYou want to sink into their thoughts. Head to head, [you\u2019re saying,] \u2018I want to meld minds with you, I want to think what you\u2019re thinking. I want to be so in touch with you.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n
A kiss on the forehead, however, might mean something completely different. Wood says forehead kisses (or kisses on the top of your head, for that matter) are driven by a \u201cpaternal\u201d and \u201cnurturing instinct.\u201d This doesn\u2019t inherently mean your partner views you as a child, but it doesn\u2019t carry the same kind of emotional weight as a mind-melding forehead touch.<\/p>\n
05
\nThey Bite Or Nibble You
\nIf your partner’s getting a little nibbly, it’s likely because they’re aiming to amp up your excitement and pleasure, not trying to hurt you. \u201cMany areas of the body become extra sensitive because of increased blood flow during arousal,\u201d explains Reiman. \u201cA gentle bite or slight nibble during this time allows your body to react with excitement as endorphins are released and pain is perceived as pleasure.\u201d<\/p>\n
06
\nThey Nuzzle Your Neck
\n\u201c[The] neck is very much an erogenous zone,\u201d says Reiman. \u201cIt represents an emotional connection to another individual.\u201d She also says eye contact and neck-nuzzling during sex are two huge tip-offs that your partner is emotionally invested, and not just looking for a meaningless hookup. Conversely, if your partner is intentionally avoiding eye contact and not getting nuzzly, it means they’re trying to keep their emotional distance, despite how physically close you two are in that moment.<\/p>\n
\u201cAlthough it does not hold as much meaning as eye contact during sex, nuzzling the neck demonstrates a feeling of connection\u2026\u201d Reiman explains. \u201cIf [neither is] attempted, it is more of a sexual encounter, as opposed to a lovemaking experience.\u201d<\/p>\n
07
\nThey Spend A Lot Of Time On Your Hands & Feet
\nDid a new partner just spend a lot of time touching your feet? As it turns out, this might not be a foot fetish situation. According to Wood, if someone heads straight for your feet or fingers, it probably means they\u2019re too nervous to touch other parts of your body or focus in on your face. Kissing or touching your extremities sends a hot message, but it\u2019s also a little distant. \u201cThat seems safer,\u201d says Wood. \u201cIt\u2019s sexy, but it\u2019s safer.\u201d<\/p>\n
08
\nThey Hold Your Hands While Hooking Up<\/p>\n
Your hand doesn\u2019t have as many nerve endings, so your partner isn\u2019t necessarily trying to turn you on, but they want you to know that they\u2019re there, and they feel close to you. \u201cThey want to maintain a connection with you that has more intimacy attached to it,\u201d Wood explains. \u201cIt\u2019s a sign of tenderness, and it\u2019s a signal of connection, rather than just passion or lust.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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